Scribbles Not Outlines 7: Better out than in

Salaam Alaikum to anyone left reading this. It has indeed been far too long.

Oreo is now six months old. The title refers to her, as I’m enjoying being a mother about a million times more then I enjoyed being pregnant.

People say about mothers loving their babies, but I don’t love Oreo, I’m in love with her. It’s a real tangible joy, I get stomach flips and butterflies looking at her. Just looking with wonder at this little person, that by Allah’s will, I managed to bring into the world.

Our favourite game is ‘A Hundred Kisses’, where I cover her little cheeks in kisses while she does a big baby belly laugh.

Is that too much baby talk? I do wonder why women are still made to feel bad about talking about their babies. Men can have websites about fishing equipment, e.t.c but if women have a site discussing pushchairs (a piece of equipment you have to lug about on a daily basis) then it’s a mindless waste of time. We can dress it up anyway we want, but the underlying assumption is still:

Things that (mainly) Men do are more important then Things that (mainly) women do.


Was thinking about Ramadan last night. I need it. Insha Allah, I just want to switch off and focus. I love Ramadan for that. Insha Allah may our hearts be nourished as we fast.

I probably wont be going to the masjid for tarawhir. Oreo’s bedtime is 7pm, and she is very, very strict about it. I do not want to be the person who brings the screaming baby to the masjid.

I know, I know, masjid’s should be child friendly and this is not a dig at women who do bring children there, but at the same time we should be realistic. Bringing very young, pre school age children to the masjid and expecting them to sit still, for hours on end, with no entertainment is cruel. The same goes for bringing babies to a bright noisy place, when they’d rather be tucked in their cot in a peaceful room.

The real culprit here is the narrow concept of what a Good Muslim should be.

Good Muslims go to the masjid and attend as many lectures as possible. So if you do not go to the masjid, for whatever reason, then you are not a Good Muslim.

Never mind that as repeatedly stated in the Qur’an, unlike humans, Allah sees all that you do and you can worship him in many ways, that don’t necessarily involve sitting on a prayer mat. /Rant over


After that, I feel rather sheepish admitting this next part, but in the interests of honesty, I will say that I’ve been watching True Blood lately and it’s rather good. However, is it just me who thinks it’s a bit of a cop out when the romantic leads are a couple in real life? It’s a bit like they don’t really have to act. Hmm.

When I first started blogging, I would have never admitted to watching anything unsuitable such as that, for fear of looking like a Bad Muslim. Then I got tired of the dishonesty and tired of people who would commit all sort of sins of varying seriousness, but pretend that tv and music are the most sinful things going.

So tired.


4 Responses

  1. “Bad Muslim” checking in here. I haven’t watched “True Blood” yet, maybe I should start. I was into vampires way before they were “hot”…..they’re just so passe to me now….LOL.

    The longer that I am Muslim, the less I believe that being a good Muslim=time spent on the sajada. If the outcome of our religion is solely showing itself through the amount of prayer we do, that to me is sad. Muslims can certainly be the best isolationists, and look where that has got us.

    I’m still here, btw. As long as you’re writing, I’ll still be reading.

  2. I just wish some day Muslims would adopt the concept of the nursery. I moved to a new city, know no one and went to the Mosque for prayer and hopes of meeting a couple of sisters. My Irish twins are 26 and 10 months respectively. While I struggling to keep the two in line and pray, more women than not were wandering around presumably unable to pray. They can’t watch children? Even generally, so women can pray in peace without ill mannered children, who yes! are unable to sit still. So many sisters without children don’t come either because the sister’s areas are a dumping ground for kids. I don’t think I will be back to this Mosque any time soon because I don’t want to be the sister with the obnoxious duo. I still don’t know anyone though. Quite sad and disparaging as a convert. All of my time is with non-Muslim mommies at play groups and toddler story times.

  3. It isn’t wajib for women to go to the masjid anyway. I go sometimes, but the one we like is 2 hours away, so I don’t let it make me feel too bad when I don’t go. My kids are not the wildest ones there. Yet. But I do want them to know there are other Muslims around, and the mosque is the best place for them to see that.

  4. I totally agree about not taking the baby to the mosque – my son is 14 months and I know it would be a stressful experience for him, me and anyone within earshot if I took him. I’ve managed to go a few times this month (with someone babysitting) and have seen several instances where babies have been reduced to quivering, crying wrecks while their mothers pray – I don’t know about them, but I wouldn’t get much spiritual solace in that situation.

    Eid Mubarak and nice blog 🙂

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